I was going to reserve this Monday for a Sandy update. I wanted to make sure that the story of Superstorm Sandy didn’t disappear. It’s always on our minds around here, and maybe even on national news the last few days because of Congress’ participation in it, but in general, the story will fade over time, as these things often do. I wanted to do my part to make sure that didn’t happen. I thought, with my little corner of the world, I could continue to bring focus to the people that are still fighting, still building, still struggling to return to life after the storm.
That’s my plan for some M.a.D Mondays. But this Monday, I’m just plain, old mad. Last week, The Husband started the new year back at work to be told that his services were no longer needed. He was a Senior Vice President, with eight years of successful service at this company, the very same company for whom we uprooted our lives and moved to New Jersey. But on Wednesday, they ended the relationship. No real explanation and certainly no evidence of anything he did wrong. It wasn’t handled well and he deserved much better.
Ironically, (or maybe just bad luck, don’t push my Lit skills now) in December we talked about him moving on because he could feel that maybe his time was up there, as it was seeming there was no room left for him to grow. But, when I asked in a panic if he thought his job was safe, he was sure it was because he was in charge of so many accounts and he’d been told just a few months back that he was essential. I guess their idea of essential changed over Christmas.
Pretty incredible huh? But I won’t dwell here. I have plenty of opinions but none are kind and that is not The Husband’s way. He is the bigger man and from him I have much to learn about moving forward and keeping clean.
So move forward I shall. I’ll tell you, after the initial shock wore off, he went into work mode, contacting everyone he knows to put job feelers out and I went into survival mode trying to figure out how we were going to pay our bills on little to no money and then find what work I could do to generate income immediately.
What’s hilarious, in the if-you-don’t-laugh-you’ll-cry way, is that this was the year we were going to work on savings. We’ve spent the last few years digging out of debt so much that we’ve got a paltry savings. Also, we’ve had to move twice so any savings we did have was quickly wiped out with all of that expense. We vowed in 2013 to buckle down even further (if that’s possible) and make a nice safety net in case something like this ever happened. We thought we had plenty of time to do it.
Unfortunately life had other plans.
So, here we are. We’re trying everything we can to look forward because looking back and analyzing for mistakes, missteps, wrong-doing on our part or theirs, could kill us both. There is no room for anger, shame or resentment in a successful and contented heart.
We’re focusing on all we have. We’re being creative about getting what we need and we’re practicing gratitude for all we’ve been given thus far and we’re crossing our fingers and toes that this is the beginning of something even greater for our family.